My son knows all about a woman's menstrual cycle, he asks questions and I answer them. He knows I bleed sometimes, has seen my menstrual products and asks how they are used and what they are for. He knows daddy doesn't, but it gets a tad confusing for the poor little might when he says "When I grow up I'm going to have a period!".. Case in point: Young children have no idea about gender and sexuality. So why are we so overly concerned if a boy wears pink or a girl plays with trucks. Its an adult perception once again pushed on children.
Naturally they do not see things as gender-specific, certainly there are different preferences between children, but that is called personality...not sexuality or gender-stereotyping. Back to the previous subject of dummies again, I forgot to mention a small detail (slipped my mind...why? because it doesn't matter!) my sons preferable dummy at the moment is PINK *gasp*. This of course was mentioned at the outing, when bought up my son took it out of his mouth looked at the colour, shrugged his shoulders and went back to playing. I was then bombarded with questions, "How can you let him have a pink dummy"...Erm, his choice.. I was most shocked when someone looked horridly disapproving sighed and simply said "Oh..Katie".
That was when I proudly announced his favourite show at the moment is Angelina Ballerina, he asked for an Angelina themed birthday party and practises ballet whilst the show is on. Then the horrible word came out, the word I see so often bought up when discussion over boys and the colour pink is raised .. aren't you worried about him being gay along with the classic you are confusing him sexually. No my friends you are confusing him sexually, what is sexual about pink, what about that wonderful colour is leading my son down a certain life path at the ripe old age of 2. "oh well it IS a girls colour"..again with these magical invisible rules.. at that point I can only *facepalm*.
*on a side note I have some wonderful gay friends who inform me they were never into any typical 'girl' things as a child, the only thing that defines them as homosexual is their sexual preference*... And you know what, whether into stereotypical reverse-gender things or not..the only thing that defines someones sexual orientation IS their sexual preference.
Mason is getting to the age where he is working out their are differences between boys and girls, but a shocking find, colour has never been raised as a 'difference'. So far he has noticed anatomy, boys have a penis girls have a vagina. When will adults realise that differences between male and female is anatomy, kids have it right, lets listen to them for a change instead of changing their views on the world.
Once again we re shaming children,we are forcing adult views into wonderful minds.
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